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New Reviews of “Avoidant”

Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner

Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner

Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner keeps chugging along, with translations into Chinese, Romanian, and Spanish due soon. Some new reviews on Amazon:


5.0 out of 5 stars
one of two MUST READS for this subject
June 3, 2017
AMAZING followup read to “Attached,” if you’re looking into this situation from an anxious/avoidant relationship, this book + “Attached” are not redundant and together are quite complementary, with this book being very down-to-earth and light on research quotes, rather assuming their validity and moving on to application.

I am the “anxious” partner. I have read a LOT of books on this subject. Now, if I could just get my avoidant partner to read EITHER of these…

5.0 out of 5 stars
Five Stars
on April 2, 2017
nails it, well done.

5.0 out of 5 stars
Great to read with your partner
on January 18, 2017
Incredibly helpful. Great to read with your partner, to help guide those difficult conversations.

 5.0 out of 5 stars
on January 13, 2017
Excellent, helpful information!!!!

 5.0 out of 5 stars
along with Wired For Love and Marriage Rebranded
on January 9, 2017
If you’re reading this then I know you can relate. This book, along with Wired For Love and Marriage Rebranded, saved me and my marriage. Read all three and ask your spouse to do the same. You’re welcome. 😉

55th Amazon Review of Avoidant – “The Most Helpful Book I Have Read in My Entire Life.”

Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner has sold tens of thousands of copies since it was published two years ago. I am gratified by the number of people who have written me to tell me it helped them, and the thriving community at the Jeb Kinnison Attachment Type Forum which discusses attachment issues and helps people who have been injured.

Today’s really good Amazon review:

on September 25, 2016

 

This book literally changed my life. I am a woman and always had an attachment style that is sometimes fearful avoidant sometimes dismissive avoidant. Everything the author describes about avoidant people matches perfectly what I am, what I did or do and how I feel. I stumbled across other avoidants in my life and like the author says the relationships between me and other avoidants were always short lived because the “why bother” factor was just too much.

This book is priceless both for avoidants like me and for non avoidants. I think almost everyone in their life will happen to date some avoidants, especially if you are still single above 30. This book gives you the tools you need to exactly understand where you stand. It saves you so much pain. For me, it has helped understand why I always feel caged when in a relationship, why I never seem to find the right person despite being very attractive and extremely fit. Also it allowed me to understand how poor my communication is and how out of touch with my emotions I am.

Many of the men I dated told me I behave like a man. I always act like I don’t give a damn about relationships (and in most cases I don’t give a damn for real). I could never figure out why they would say so and the book clarified that avoidants are more often men than women so now I also understand why my dates had that feeling that I behaved like a man.

I would seriously give this book 100 stars. So far I can honestly say it has been the most helpful book I have read in my entire life. I read many books about relationships but this went right to the core, the root reason, why my relationships were always disfunctional. As an avoidant, they were bound to be disfunctional because I made them so. Now with this awareness I think I can learn to be better and hopefully start a secure and mature relationship

“This Book Saved My Life!”…” A Review of “Avoidant”

If you’ve read and liked any of my books, stop right now and go leave a review over at Amazon. It’s very important, since more reviews gets more exposure gets more sales… which garners more readers and more reviews. Amazon’s recent arbitrary removal of some reviews means each one is more important, and so I post them here when they appear to be sure a copy is kept.

The latest is for Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner, which is selling well and doing some good in the world:

5.0 out of 5 stars
It was the most painful and traumatic experience I ever had
By Jennifer
April 15, 2016
Format: Paperback|Verified Purchase

I agree with one of the other commenters…this book saved my life. I accidentally stumbled on “Fearful Avoidant” after months of research trying to understand why my man dumped me via text after a whirlwind romance. Of course, I had to find one of the guys that fits into the very rare 5% of Fearful Avoidant…It was the most painful and traumatic experience I ever had, but thanks to Jeb Kinnison, it makes perfect sense. In fact, having this understanding allows me better patience, understanding, and empathy, and my relationship has found a second chance with solid psychology behind it, no guessing, and no more taking anything personally!!! I was stuck on the belief that my man was simply a Passive Aggressive Narcissist, but thanks to this book, I realize that is not the case. He is a good man who craves a relationship with me yet is so afraid I’ll change for the worse or give up on him. Trust issues your avoidant has are NOT your fault; read this and stop blaming yourself!!

I’m grateful for Jeb Kinnison for writing this book and explaining in very clear, yet detailed terms, why avoidants act the way they do. This book turned out to be the only thing that gave me answers and ultimately true comfort. I really enjoyed how the author went into describing the many scenarios and/or conversations that are common with dating an avoidant. This book is very enlightening. Save yourself from heartache and pain, either by understanding your avoidant and trying to salvage the relationship – or – know what to look for early on so you no longer feel frustration in trying to get someone to commit. Everyone needs to read this book!!!

“This book is AMAZING…” A Review of “Avoidant”

I’m really happy Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner is reaching more people and helping them with their problems. Since Amazon reviews occasionally disappear, I wanted to save this latest one:

5.0 out of 5 stars – This book is AMAZING.
Verified Purchase

This book is AMAZING. I have never written a review, I probably never will write another review. This book helped me understand 3 things:

1) What is the cluster of behaviors, beliefs, opinions and actions that constitutes an Avoidant Dismissive partner.

2) Why the individual I was in love with was not to blame for those rigid personality characteristics, which sometimes made them able to inflict unbelievable pain in me.

3) How despite her not having responsibility for it, these traits were so stark, rigid, and intense in her that I had to stop having a primary relationship with her, whether or not she had any fault in it.

This book transformed a disorganized mass of madness and pain in my mind into a well-organized hierarchy of painful reasons to make hard decisions, and I think it can do the same for you.

I have already bought this book for 4 other people, including my ex-primary, and expect to continue buying it for people in the following decades.

If I was dying, this book would be on the list of things I wanted my children to read together with Rationality, AI to Zombies, Superintelligence, Darwin Dangerous Idea and Non-Violent Communication.

July Reviews of “Avoidant”

Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner

Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner

Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner has gathered a few more reviews this month:

5 stars – Spot On!
By Sara Lynnon, July 14, 2015

This book put together all of the crazy-making broken pieces of my 35-year relationship with a fearful avoidant partner, which helped me to make sense of it all. Following a relational crisis 4 years ago, I had been sorting through the puzzling pieces, searching for resources, and going through counseling to try to understand the devastation. In the early stages, the only resource that seemed applicable and made any sense was Emotionally Focused Therapy, which is a fluffy, watered-down version of attachment issues when it comes to the truly avoidant. I always suspected attachment issues, yet it took this book to pull it all together. It reads like someone documented the entire relationship.

5 stars
By Mother of 2, July 13, 2015

Absolutely necessary to understand people’s behavior before you commit to long term relationship, or while you are in it but is confused about what is happening. I have read a lot of other books and online info, this book is the easiest to understand and is clear as day, especially if you are in such a relationship or has been previously. can’t say enough about it.

New Reviews of “Avoidant”

Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner

Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner

Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner 

Reviews have slowed to a trickle, probably because readers see most of their points already covered. But here’s two that have come in in the last month:

5 Stars
By Daphneon May 30, 2015
Very informative and made me aware of myself as well as the person I have in my life and where we may both be coming from and things that can be worked on. There is hope.

5 Stars
By Kindle Customer on 20 May 2015
Brilliant, helps you understand what is going on in that kind of relationship

“It Described His Behaviors With Such Eerie Perfection”

Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner

Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner

A new review of Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner: on Amazon keeps the uniform 5-star rating going:

5.0 out of 5 stars, January 17, 2015
By Dara

I’ve been (it turns out) with an avoidant/dismissive for around 10 years — this book brought me peace because it described his behaviors with such eerie perfection. I was able to understand why our relations had always been tumultuous and why it was okay to leave.