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“This book is AMAZING…” A Review of “Avoidant”

I’m really happy Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner is reaching more people and helping them with their problems. Since Amazon reviews occasionally disappear, I wanted to save this latest one:

5.0 out of 5 stars – This book is AMAZING.
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This book is AMAZING. I have never written a review, I probably never will write another review. This book helped me understand 3 things:

1) What is the cluster of behaviors, beliefs, opinions and actions that constitutes an Avoidant Dismissive partner.

2) Why the individual I was in love with was not to blame for those rigid personality characteristics, which sometimes made them able to inflict unbelievable pain in me.

3) How despite her not having responsibility for it, these traits were so stark, rigid, and intense in her that I had to stop having a primary relationship with her, whether or not she had any fault in it.

This book transformed a disorganized mass of madness and pain in my mind into a well-organized hierarchy of painful reasons to make hard decisions, and I think it can do the same for you.

I have already bought this book for 4 other people, including my ex-primary, and expect to continue buying it for people in the following decades.

If I was dying, this book would be on the list of things I wanted my children to read together with Rationality, AI to Zombies, Superintelligence, Darwin Dangerous Idea and Non-Violent Communication.

July Reviews of “Avoidant”

Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner

Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner

Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner has gathered a few more reviews this month:

5 stars – Spot On!
By Sara Lynnon, July 14, 2015

This book put together all of the crazy-making broken pieces of my 35-year relationship with a fearful avoidant partner, which helped me to make sense of it all. Following a relational crisis 4 years ago, I had been sorting through the puzzling pieces, searching for resources, and going through counseling to try to understand the devastation. In the early stages, the only resource that seemed applicable and made any sense was Emotionally Focused Therapy, which is a fluffy, watered-down version of attachment issues when it comes to the truly avoidant. I always suspected attachment issues, yet it took this book to pull it all together. It reads like someone documented the entire relationship.

5 stars
By Mother of 2, July 13, 2015

Absolutely necessary to understand people’s behavior before you commit to long term relationship, or while you are in it but is confused about what is happening. I have read a lot of other books and online info, this book is the easiest to understand and is clear as day, especially if you are in such a relationship or has been previously. can’t say enough about it.

New Reviews of “Avoidant”

Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner

Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner

Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner 

Reviews have slowed to a trickle, probably because readers see most of their points already covered. But here’s two that have come in in the last month:

5 Stars
By Daphneon May 30, 2015
Very informative and made me aware of myself as well as the person I have in my life and where we may both be coming from and things that can be worked on. There is hope.

5 Stars
By Kindle Customer on 20 May 2015
Brilliant, helps you understand what is going on in that kind of relationship

“It Described His Behaviors With Such Eerie Perfection”

Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner

Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner

A new review of Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner: on Amazon keeps the uniform 5-star rating going:

5.0 out of 5 stars, January 17, 2015
By Dara

I’ve been (it turns out) with an avoidant/dismissive for around 10 years — this book brought me peace because it described his behaviors with such eerie perfection. I was able to understand why our relations had always been tumultuous and why it was okay to leave.