Another good review at Amazon — I didn’t spend much time talking about how to improve problematic relationships between the types, but this reader at least found the general outline of couples communication and a few specific suggestions for dealing with avoidants useful:
5.0 out of 5 stars: Interesting theory!, July 13, 2014
By Amy Blake (Portland, OR USA)
I recommend this book to all of my girl friends who complain about being in bad relationships. Although analyzing yourself and your partner with attachment theory has its limitations, this guide helped me understand my own needs and communicate better with my boyfriend. He’s kind of an “avoidant,” and the techniques in the book helped to defuse our break up/make up cycles. Is this “manipulation”? Maybe, but it works!
If you haven’t picked it up yet, you can special order the print edition through any bookstore. Online, the ebooks and print versions are still at these links:
Barnes and Noble trade paperback
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