This book is a superb guide, both for people currently in and out of relationships. While reading it, I was astounded by the simple clarity with which it brought into sharp focus many of the mysteries of love and attraction that had previously seemed so mysterious. It really is like a magic decoder ring, a guidebook that helps unlock the secrets to your past, present and future loves. While this should be considered mandatory reading for anyone looking for a mate, it is highly valuable for people in relationships as well. As we know, long-term relationships need to be nurtured over the years with love and care, and this book is the guidebook I had always wished for as I stumbled along the way. Stumble no more! “Bad Boyfriends” is like the owner’s manual to the human heart for which we’ve all been waiting.
Working out kinks in print editions. In the meantime, I’ve been asked to comment on “Millionaire Matchmaker,” the reality TV show featuring rich guys (usually) paying to meet attractive ladies. First, it’s reality TV – so what you see is what the producers think will entertain you. The matchmaker, Patti, tries to coach the clients but usually doesn’t get far in changing their dysfunctional behavior. The candidates are gamely trying, but they get no help at all other than appearance suggestions made in a tactless way. Really, they all need to read my book, and stay away from artificial speed-dating setups! While it can be entertaining, it would only be by amazing accident that anyone on it found a relationship through it.
I’m technically a millionaire several times over. Being a millionaire today does not make you rich, and several of her clients reek of unstable finances. You do reality TV because you think exposure helps you, and really wealthy clients wouldn’t bother.
Well-written article in The Atlantic on monogamy, which the author did not successfully maintain. She comments at length on the excellent book Love Illuminated by Daniel Jones, editor of the NY Times’ feature Modern Love. His book is really a go-to for realism in relationships, one of my hobbyhorses — life with your partner is wonderful and a hard grind to achieve and thrive, at the same time.