While people are still forming good relationships and marriages by finding like-minded partners, those happy people are relatively quiet, and online the poisonous communications of embittered men and women have a much higher profile. The “grievance bubble” of modern feminism — which sees women as endlessly wronged by brutish males — is now countered by the Red Pill grievance bubble of men who feel victimized by women who use and discard them, or even worse, ignore them and act as if even a friendly word is an aggression.
People who treat each other as objects to be used for sex or to fill an attachment need without regard to the others’ inner being suck. People who treat their intimate partners as valuable people first, treasuring their individualism and learning as much as they can about their partner, are the winners in the relationship game — inner security and confidence is sexy and attractive in both men and women. When the insecure start blaming everyone else for their failure to get their needs met instead of working on improving themselves to be better partners, we have groups of embittered men and women engaged in blaming to preserve their egos.
The Slate Star Codex blog (which is full of good reads for rationalists) has a great looong post about this meanness and how the cruelties displayed by the embittered are adding to the schism (h/t Instapundit.) He uses Google histories to trace the origin of the Manosphere and finds it to have started up after years of contemptuous references to men in the Femosphere. Here’s the priceless quote (referring to feminist web sites’ disdain and cruelty toward lonely men):
When your position commits you to saying “Love isn’t important to humans and we should demand people stop caring about whether or not they have it,” you need to take a really careful look in the mirror – assuming you even show up in one.
Please do read “Radicalizing the Romanceless.”
Death by HR: How Affirmative Action Cripples Organizations
[From Death by HR: How Affirmative Action Cripples Organizations, available now in Kindle and trade paperback.]
Corporate HR Scrambles to Halt Publication of “Death by HR”
Nobody gets a job through HR. The purpose of HR is to protect their parent organization against lawsuits for running afoul of the government’s diversity extortion bureaus. HR kills companies by blanketing industry with onerous gender and race labor compliance rules and forcing companies to hire useless HR staff to process the associated paperwork… a tour de force… carefully explains to CEOs how HR poisons their companies and what steps they may take to marginalize this threat… It is time to turn the tide against this madness, and Death by HR is an important research tool… All CEOs should read this book. If you are a mere worker drone but care about your company, you should forward an anonymous copy to him.
More on Social Decay:
“Marriage Rate Lowest in a Century”
Making Divorce Hard to Strengthen Marriages?
The High Cost of Divorce
Divorced Men 8 Times as Likely to Commit Suicide as Divorced Women
Cuba: Where All but the Connected are Poor
“Postcards from Venezuela”
Ross Douthat on Unstable Families and Culture
“Income Inequality” Propaganda is Just Disguised Materialism
The Social Decay of Black Neighborhoods (And Yours!)
“Marriage Markets” – Marriage Beyond Our Means?
Real-Life “Hunger Games”: Soft Oppression Destroys the Poor
Why Did Black Crime Syndicates Fail to Go Legit?
“Why Are Great Husbands Being Abandoned?”
Public Schools in Poor Districts: For Control Not Education
Culture Wars: Peace Through Limited Government
Steven Pinker on Harvard and Meritocracy
“Breaking Bad”–The Lessons of Walter White