I’m really happy Avoidant: How to Love (or Leave) a Dismissive Partner is reaching more people and helping them with their problems. Since Amazon reviews occasionally disappear, I wanted to save this latest one:
5.0 out of 5 stars – This book is AMAZING.
This book is AMAZING. I have never written a review, I probably never will write another review. This book helped me understand 3 things:
1) What is the cluster of behaviors, beliefs, opinions and actions that constitutes an Avoidant Dismissive partner.
2) Why the individual I was in love with was not to blame for those rigid personality characteristics, which sometimes made them able to inflict unbelievable pain in me.
3) How despite her not having responsibility for it, these traits were so stark, rigid, and intense in her that I had to stop having a primary relationship with her, whether or not she had any fault in it.
This book transformed a disorganized mass of madness and pain in my mind into a well-organized hierarchy of painful reasons to make hard decisions, and I think it can do the same for you.
I have already bought this book for 4 other people, including my ex-primary, and expect to continue buying it for people in the following decades.
If I was dying, this book would be on the list of things I wanted my children to read together with Rationality, AI to Zombies, Superintelligence, Darwin Dangerous Idea and Non-Violent Communication.